I've heard this and said this so many times. It was this morning when I was talking about expecting someone in my organization to talk to me this week about my merit.
My organization calls our annual salary review "merit".
This morning my friend stopped me and said in her perfectly matter-of-fact way "you have merit and nothing they say or do can change that".
Words have so much meaning and I was allowing this conversation about my merit...
This work isn't sexy, and it may not be quick, but you will feel strong and confident in knowing that these are life-long, sustainable changes.
I'm not going to give you the answers. I will support you and encourage you, but I will not hand you the answers because they would be my answers, not yours. True, lasting, sustainable change can only come from you doing the work and finding your own answers.
It may not be easy, but it also...
I want to say this is "learning" to listen, but in reality, it is a relearning or a returning.
When we are born, when we are young, all we know to do is listen to ourselves. We feel something, and we share it with those around us - even before we have words. Actually, especially before we have words. My mum reminds me that when I was a baby, I would "tell" everyone around every tiny detail that was going on within my human body! This is...
Do not underestimate me!
Yes, I may have underestimated myself. And, yes, that gave you permission to underestimate me, but that ends, right here, right now.
"Good enough" is no longer good enough.
I will no longer settle for less than exceptional.
Exceptional is the only path forward for me.
I had coffee with someone today who told me that I was "the same" as someone who does not bring my same knowledge, talents, experience, or...
Clearly, simply, what am I hear to share with you?
My desire for you, loves, is that you learn to trust yourself and know that you are worthy of the life that you desire!
From our very beginning, we assimilate the "shoulds", "would haves", and expectations of those around us - our parents, family, friends, social network, and culture. Sometimes we question, but most of the time we accept these beliefs bestowed upon us as fact. So...
I'm tired of feeling stuck. I'm tired of the energy not moving. I'm tired of not feeling worthy. I'm tired of questioning my power. I'm tired of being scared of my power. I'm tired of hiding. I'm tired of playing small. I'm tired of being tired with myself. I'm tired of stopping myself. I'm tired of putting up my own roadblocks.
This needs to change. And not in a small way, but in a life-altering, legacy-shifting way. The ways...
What the F does that even mean!? Notice without judgement?
If you follow me, you know that I talk a lot about noticing. Notice when you fall back into a habit. Notice when you say something that doesn't sit right in your gut. Notice your reactions. Notice....blah, blah, blah!
And, try to release the judgement.
If you've found yourself saying something along the lines of: "Lady, I'm noticing myself f*ck up a lot. How is this supposed to...